Certainly not divine all the time, though that’s what our secondary section essays said.
Yeah, I lied very well in them.
The level of tolerance hits a new high among women, especially the women around me, where they are ready to forgive grave errors.
Why?
Because of love. Love, the most powerful and beautiful emotion in the world, as eye-opening as it is blinding. Many women feel that their love would make the erroneous other change himself or herself and endeavour to walk the straight and narrow path.
But that’s not how people work. One does not change because of someone’s love for them. One changes because of one’s love for someone. And therefore, these women fall into the cycle of toxic forgiveness, where every tear brought by the hurt is brushed away in the hope that this tear would be the last, that this hurt would be the last.
I single out women merely because their numbers in my observation are greater than men in the act of toxic forgiveness. However, this is not restricted to gender. I know a few men who have spiraled down this black hole, hurting themselves in permanent ways, scarring themselves forever. Me, I’ve even found myself on the precipice of plunging down this ocean though in errors that don’t merit as the gravest. But later on, I’ve realized that these small forgivings will later snowball into something much worse.
So I end with an if-else statement that I’ve found to be genuinely useful on such occasions.
if ( the erroneaous one is remorseful && promises never to repeat the offence)
forgive()
else
increase distance to infinity
